Wednesday, March 24, 2010

Friendship with God

God is beyond our comprehension - the creator and sustainer of the universe, the eternal being, the Trinity of Father, Son and Holy Spirit. How can we have real friendship with God? The answer: because God desires it and makes it a reality. Our friendship with God cannot be lost because it cannot be separated from our salvation and the gift of eternal life.

What does friendship with God look like? How does it work?

There is one God who exists as three persons. Friendship with God must mean friendship with the Father, friendship with Jesus, and friendship with the Holy Spirit. Within the Trinity there is the deepest and greatest love and enjoyment of each other. The greatest of human friendships (David and Jonathan, Abraham and Issac, Ruth and Naomi, Yet it is a friendship that all believers are drawn into so that they can experience it by participating in it. Jesus said,

"If anyone loves me, he will obey my teaching. My Father will love him, and we will come to him and make our home with him. - John 14:23

The root of true friendship is mutual love. A love that motivates us to enjoy the other. We admire what is best about them and enjoy what they say and do. In fact we enjoy their success more than our own - as a dad I enjoy my children's successes more than my own. By the way, "friendship" is not a separate category from family; friendship encompases family and marriage.

But how do you exercise and enjoy your friendship with your heavenly Father, Christ your brother-King, and the Holy Spirit, your counselor-teacher? We do this individually by learning how each of them relates with us. Paul helps us with this when he describes key elements of how each person of the Trinity touches us in friendship.

The grace of the Lord Jesus Christ and the love of God and the fellowship of the Holy Spirit be with you all. (2 Corinthians 13:14)

The Father's love - oh how he loves us

Some Christians are unsure of the Father's love. They have learned that "Jesus loves me, this I know, for the bible tells me so," but they may fear the Father and believe that Christ stands between them and wrath of the Father. Jesus disciples may have wondered the same thing until he set them straight:

In that day you will ask in my name. I am not saying that I will ask the Father on your behalf. No, the Father himself loves you... (John 16:26-27)

How would you feel if there is someone you love deeply, but they refuse to believe that you love them? Nothing grieves the heart of your heavenly Father than for you to believe he does not love you. Yes, it breaks his heat that someone he loves with so great a love, does not receive that love.

Do you want to experience joy of a friendship that makes your heart soar heavenward? Then you must receive the love of you Father in heaven. "Abba" the intimate name that a child calls its father, as we might call our fathers "Dad" or "Daddy." Jesus called out to his "Abba" when he was in the garden of Gethsemane. And our heavenly Father wants us to see him in the same intimate way. Paul writes to the Romans saying,

For you did not receive a spirit that makes you a slave again to fear, but you received the Spirit of sonship. And by him we cry, "Abba, Father." (Romans 8:15)

So recieve, and do not doubt, the Father's love for you. It is not a general love for people, it is a personal, one-to-one love for you. Believe it and receive it continuously. Believe most when you sin. The devil wants you to think that the Father withdraws his love and punishes you when you sin. That is a LIE. The Father's love does not waiver like the flame of a candle - it is constant and powerful like the blazing sun. Christ has born all that justice demands for your sins (past and future.) The Father will discipline us in love, with a discipline that always results in joy for us (though it may take time for us to reach that result.) Know that the Father greatly desires for you to see and enjoy all the ways in which he pours out his love to you. Think often on all of the ways he has loved you. Look around you at all the tokens of love that he lays out before you. Believe his promise that he will work all things together for your good - that is what a true firend does.

Friendship is a two way street. Receiving, embracing and enjoying the love of the Father is the first part of that friendship. The second is responding with love to your heavenly Father. He not only longs for you to receive his love, he also longs to be loved by you. He delights in the love of his children. Yes, you bring joy to God (Father, Son and Spirit) when you love the Father. How can we love our Father? We love him by seeing and enjoying him as he truely is. We seek to know him, looking upon his beauty and glory as he reveals to us in his own words preserved in the bible. We love him by seeking him and asking him to lead us daily through prayer and by obeying the clear commandments he has given us in his word. We obey not out of fear, or out of desire for reward, but because we love him and we know our obedience (an imitation of Christ) gives him joy. We love him by being satisfied and content in him, by being careful that nothing and no one comes into our life to take even the smallest part of the love we have for God.

Tell him you love him. Tell him with words and actions.

How He Loves
- David Crowder Band

Monday, March 22, 2010

Bhutanese Refugees in KC

Finding work is the greatest challenge. Most of the Bhutanese over age 35 arrive not able to speak any English. Most that are 25 or younger learned English in the education system setup in the UN refugee camps. They may speak with a heavy accent but their understanding is very good and they also have excellent math and reading skills. (Many of the teens are ahead of their American peers in math.) Many in KC have found employment in smaller manufacturing companies or with UPS. The key being that younger workers with good English get in first and prove their worth, then older workers with less English may be hired where the younger workers can interpret for them. These are minimum wage jobs and sometimes the work is part-time or temporary. Still, two or more adults from an extended family can work part-time and earn enough to meet family living expenses until more/better opportunities can be found.

Transportation to get to and from work is the next challenge. KC has a very limited public transportation system - entirely inadequate for those that may be working late shifts. Fortunately, there have been opportunities to boot-strap a solution. Initially a not-for-profit organization help locate jobs and then provided transportation. Once people are working with an income stream other volunteers provided some drivers training and/or helped the Bhutanese get into a driver's education course offered by local for-profit companies. Again the younger adults with better English skills led the way getting licenses and buying used cars. One driver with a car can take 4 non-drivers to work if they work in the same place.

The Bhutanese are very resourceful (as were previous immigrants). They quickly learn how & where to buy good food at low prices (e.g. rice in bags of 20-30 pounds that is much higher quality than they ate in the camps, tea, raw vegetables and fruits, they even buy milk and make their own yogurt.)

Perhaps the greatest challenge is the acute anxiety associated with such a radical change in culture. Its a natural human reaction. Any US city can be a confusing and difficult environment for an immigrant. I think the key to reducing this anxiety is found in community support. Their first community is the other Bhutanese refugees in the same city. Catholic Charities is helping most of the refugees and they are doing a great job of keeping the Bhutanese people reasonably close together. There is also a small community of people from Nepal that immigrated to the US some years ago and they are also helping the new arrivals -- just seeing their success gives the new immigrants real hope that they will also succeed. The greater KC community is also helping by reaching out to the new immigrants. Organizations like Mission Adelante (www.missionadelante.org) were already reaching out to Hispanic immigrants and now are expanding to support the Bhutanese. Volunteers from local churches are working to teach English, driving and offer advice and help with work, car buying and many other topics.

I have been blessed to find many new friends among the Bhutanese. One friend, Gobar, was among the first to come to US. In 1989 he was 9 when his family was forced from their home and walked three days to the Bhutan-India border. He grew up in the refugee camps, but he did not give up. He studied hard in the camp schools, earning the equivalent of a BS degree in mathematics and earning money tutoring other students. He came to the US alone eighteen months ago. He almost despaired at the loneliness, the struggle to find work and the pressure to establish himself before his parents, brothers and sisters and his fiancées family came to the US But he didn't give up. A Christian (rare among the largely Hindu Bhutanese) he visited our church. Our pastor and his wife had recently returned from working overseas for two years - they understood the anxiety of an unfamiliar city with a strange culture. Friendship and encouragement was what Gobar needed most, the rest he accomplished by his own hard work. Gobar's Fiancée, her mother and brother were relocated to Boise, ID (not by choice). Gobar saved his money until he could go to Boise and bring them back to KC. I picked them up at the airport. His future mother-in-law is completely paralyzed and I watched as Gobar lifted her into his arms and placed her in my van.

Now, Gobar and his family are working, saving, pursuing more education, and helping other Bhutanese. His sister Laxmi worked 2 jobs (70+ hrs/week) to save money for a car and tuition. She has recently been accepted at the University of Missouri in KC and her goal is to become a medical doctor -- no one doubts she will accomplish that. Yesterday I attended Gobar's wedding in our church where vows were said in Nepalese and English and we all celebrated the blessings of a growing community.

There are still Bhutanese that are fearful and struggling in KC, but they see that others who arrived before them are finding a way and there is a path for them to follow. My prayer is the Bhutanese in Portland will come to find the same joy that Gobar and his family have found in KC.Finding work is the greatest challenge. Most of the Bhutanese over age 35 arrive not able to speak any English. Most that are 25 or younger learned English in the education system setup in the UN refugee camps. They may speak with a heavy accent but their understanding is very good and they also have excellent math and reading skills. (Many of the teens are ahead of their American peers in math.) Many in KC have found employment in smaller manufacturing companies or with UPS. The key being that younger workers with good English get in first and prove their worth, then older workers with less English may be hired where the younger workers can interpret for them. These are minimum wage jobs and sometimes the work is part-time or temporary. Still, two or more adults from an extended family can work part-time and earn enough to meet family living expenses until more/better opportunities can be found.

Transportation to get to and from work is a challenge. KC has a very limited public transportation system - entirely inadequate for those that may be working late shifts. Fortunately, there have been opportunities to boot-strap a solution. Initially a not-for-profit organization help locate jobs and then provided transportation. Once people are working with an income stream other volunteers provided some drivers training and/or helped the Bhutanese get into a driver's education course offered by local for-profit companies. Again the younger adults with better English skills led the way getting licenses and buying used cars. One driver with a car can take 4 non-drivers to work if they work in the same place.

The Bhutanese are very resourceful (as were previous immigrants). They quickly learn how & where to buy good food at low prices (e.g. rice in bags of 20-30 pounds that is much higher quality than they ate in the camps, tea, raw vegetables and fruits, they even buy milk and make their own yogurt.)

Perhaps the greatest challenge is the acute anxiety associated with such a radical change in culture. Its a natural human reaction. Any US city can be a confusing and difficult environment for an immigrant. I think the key to reducing this anxiety is found in community support. Their first community is the other Bhutanese refugees in the same city. Catholic Charities is helping most of the refugees and they are doing a great job of keeping the Bhutanese people reasonably close together. There is also a small community of people from Nepal that immigrated to the US some years ago and they are also helping the new arrivals -- just seeing their success gives the new immigrants real hope that they will also succeed. The greater KC community is also helping by reaching out to the new immigrants. Organizations like Mission Adelante (www.missionadelante.org) were already reaching out to Hispanic immigrants and now are expanding to support the Bhutanese. Volunteers from local churches are working to teach English, driving and offer advice and help with work, car buying and many other topics.

I have been blessed to find many new friends among the Bhutanese. One friend, Gobar, was among the first to come to US. In 1989 he was 9 when his family was forced from their home and walked three days to the Bhutan-India border. He grew up in the refugee camps, but he did not give up. He studied hard in the camp schools, earning the equivalent of a BS degree in mathematics and earning money tutoring other students. He came to the US alone eighteen months ago. He almost despaired at the loneliness, the struggle to find work and the pressure to establish himself before his parents, brothers and sisters and his fiancées family came to the US But he didn't give up. A Christian (rare among the largely Hindu Bhutanese) he visited our church. Our pastor and his wife had recently returned from working overseas for two years - they understood the anxiety of an unfamiliar city with a strange culture. Friendship and encouragement was what Gobar needed most, the rest he accomplished by his own hard work. Gobar's Fiancée, her mother and brother were relocated to Boise, ID (not by choice). Gobar saved his money until he could go to Boise and bring them back to KC. I picked them up at the airport. His future mother-in-law is completely paralyzed and I watched as Gobar lifted her into his arms and placed her in my van.

Now, Gobar and his family are working, saving, pursuing more education, and helping other Bhutanese. His sister Laxmi worked 2 jobs (70+ hrs/week) to save money for a car and tuition. She has recently been accepted at the University of Missouri in KC and her goal is to become a medical doctor -- no one doubts she will accomplish that. Yesterday I attended Gobar's wedding in our church where vows were said in Nepalese and English and we all celebrated the blessings of a growing community.

There are still Bhutanese that are fearful and struggling in KC, but they see that others who arrived before them are finding a way and there is a path for them to follow. My prayer is the Bhutanese refugees everwhere will come to find the same joy that Gobar and his family have found in KC.

Friday, March 5, 2010

Loving Much Without Loving Well

Have you ever thought you loved someone  very, much but, in truth, you did not love them very well? Love of ice cream is not real love; it is self-indulgence.

Dan Allender suggests that real love is when you care more about what is best for the other person, than you care about the benefits you get from the relationship. If you are not willing to risk the relationship for what is best for the other person, then you do not love them.

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